Interest is above all. Armenia between the EAEU and the EU: interests above all Imaginary financial independence
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We often talk about equality, about the need to respect each other's interests. In theory, we are all savvy. What about practice? Will we be able to discern dishonesty in real relationships at its first manifestation?
website invites you to look from the outside at fairly common situations. Perhaps this will help someone to take a fresh look at personal relationships.
Unequal spending of time and money on common needs
Do you struggle every day to run to the store after work and cook breakfast, lunch and dinner because your partner is used to eating well and regularly? Are you taking on another part-time job because you don't have enough money for your loved one's new whims? Your salary is not enough for two people? This is unfair!
Neighborhood beneficial only to one of you
Does your partner live at your place and do you share food costs? Do each of you have a few bottles in the bathroom that you bought for yourself? Do you take turns cooking and cleaning the apartment? Everything seems to be ok here. But still, it's not fair!
Imaginary financial independence
You don't offer each other financial support during difficult times. We all know that money ruins relationships. There is even a saying: "If you want to lose a friend, lend money." This is unfair!
You have no one to rely on
Do you know for sure that you can’t get sick, because there will be no one to look after you? Do you think that your partner will also do without your help, since he is not your child? Can't you get him to feed the animal or water the flowers while you're away? This is unfair!
One on one with stress
Do you try not to tell your partner about your feelings because you know you won't find sympathy? Do you not ask each other for advice because you are not quite aware of each other's life? Do you lack moral support when you desperately need it? This is unfair!
Reproaches of insolvency on the basis of gender
Are you accused of not being able to fix a leaking kitchen faucet? Are you ashamed that borsch is not as tasty as your mother's? Are you advised to start earning "like a man", to become, in the end, a "good housewife"? This is unfair!
The comparison is not in your favor
Denial of responsibility
Question for psychologists
Hello. I am 40 years old, married 18 years old, husband 43, three daughters and a son almost two years old. It looks like an ordinary family, the husband earns enough for food, gifts for loved ones, college education for two daughters. I have been on parental leave for two years. In my childhood, my dad spent all his free time with my sisters and me. We went fishing, swimming, picking mushrooms, went to the mountains. I considered him an ideal dad. My husband, on the contrary, goes about his own business, never dedicates to his plans, I don’t know how much he earns and I can’t plan the budget, I deny myself and my children a lot (I’m afraid to ask my husband for extra money). Sometimes he does something around the house - spin, repair, but, basically, his circle of interests includes a car, work, TV, the Internet, a sofa. He used to support my childhood hobbies of fishing, mushroom hunting, we often went out with two then small children. In the last 9 years, we have never gone on vacation with the family, except to the country. We didn't even talk about other countries. I asked my husband's friend (without him) to take us with the children to the mountains, to Kapchagay. Recently I went up to him, hugged him and said that I would be the happiest woman in the world if I had a camera, we went to Black Sea and went fishing at least twice a year. He is clear! Turned away and left. I'm in tears. How long can you endure indifference, rudeness, lack of attention to the desires and needs of loved ones. I have been at home for two years. I began to sew, knit, but this is not enough. I am very grateful to him for the fact that I can safely sit at home for three years and raise a baby, I am proud of him. But I feel hopelessness that life will go on like this, and he will never hear me and the children, and my dissatisfaction will turn into depression. What should I do? How oriental women quietly rejoice at what life gives me or try to change something (I can’t change my husband, selfishness is forever.)
Hello Irina. You cannot change your husband, just like any other person. You can only change yourself, you just have to want to. A psychologist can help with this. When a person does not like his position in which he is, as a rule, he himself is partly to blame for this. Take a look at yourself, evaluate yourself critically, whether everything suits you the most in you. Tell your psychologist about your experience. Together with him you will find ways to change. It is clear that you have a family, a husband and four children, it’s not easy to break out and find funds for a psychologist, but take it as your first homework and go! So step by step, improving yourself and with a psychologist, your transformation will take place and your husband will definitely notice your change and become more attentive and gentle. And it will also change. Get ready for painstaking work on yourself day after day and the result will not keep you waiting long. Don't be lazy, start with yourself. By changing yourself, you will change the attitude of the people around you towards you. Good luck.
Sincerely, the psychologist of Almaty, Chembotaeva Bayana
Good answer 0 bad answer 1Hello Irina.
In your family life a kind of stagnation, a small family "swamp": everything is settled, familiar, unchanged. Everyone performs their role daily and statically. Nobody changes anything. You wait, but do not change, your spouse is quite comfortable at home. Start changing your own life and the life of your family: organize a trip for the WHOLE FAMILY to nature, get a driver's license, sign up for dances, change your life. Expand the range of happiness within the family, happiness depends on you and your husband. Someone in the family has to promote this line. You expect everything from your spouse, this is customary, but in your case it is unreliable. Just to be unhappy, even easier to be happy, but for this you need to work hard. Remember how long ago you yourself pleased your spouse, said pleasant words to him, diversified sex life, stayed just the two of us to watch a movie, lie in bed? Get rid of fasting in a relationship: sewing, knitting is good for a hostess, but not enough for a life partner. 9 years is too long for stagnation, bring intrigue, joy, play into your relationship.
Sincerely, Lyudmila Tskhai, Almaty psychologist
Good answer 4 bad answer 1Hello. Irina. I think that in the first years of your life together, your husband still conquered you, showing his perfection and openness. Then you went to the mountains and went fishing. But, seeing more and more good in him, you yourself melted and weakened. As a result, he allowed himself to stop paying attention to your interests and neglect you in favor of himself. And you, with his silent pressure on you, silently agreed with him to be one step lower in a new relationship, where you have already been conquered and are now dependent. You lost. and took the role of a weak and weak-willed woman in this hierarchy. And now you have completely accustomed him to this. Now it’s difficult to get attention. Your wisdom is needed. Become decisive, bring the request to the end. is silent. Then you say, “Then we’ll do without you.” And you gather the children on some small, modest trip. To leave the house regardless of your husband. moves. thus, he will see a woman again active and not intimidated by his authority. And he will begin to understand that you are getting out of control. Then he will again seek you. it is important to think over and implement the operation well. And you will see the result, in the form of the restoration of warm relations. If nothing happens at all, then you will have to draw an important conclusion - become a victim for life, or at some point leave the relationship and regain your freedom which you deserve.
Getting a team led by an alpha leader to work together and smoothly is not an easy task, but if it succeeds, the payoff is huge.
Table 7.2 shows what happens if the company's management is able to ensure normal interaction in the team. The first and third columns represent, respectively, the behavior patterns of unbalanced alpha leaders and healthy interaction and dialogue, while the second and fourth represent their consequences. As you analyze the table, try to answer the following questions.
- What model does your team work model look like, and how would you like to change it?
- What needs to be done to make the team work better?
- What measures should be taken?
- What can be an indicator of success?
Common interests above all
It is extremely important to ensure that each team member puts common interests above personal interests and treats work responsibly. To do this, many alpha leaders will have to do what they really dislike, namely
Table 7.2
Behavior of alpha leaders and its consequences
Unbalanced - Sane
alphas Consequences alpha Consequences
Suppress other team members. They show intolerance. They love to make a fuss
Give orders and impose their decisions
Enforce and control change
They make excessive demands. They show self-confidence and stubbornness. Engage in criticism
Play off team members to then support the winner
They hide their flaws and weaknesses. Refuse to admit mistakes
Hide their feelings and do not spare the vanity of others
Some team members compete with each other, while others turn into passive observers.
Many team members do not participate in discussions. The leader pursues his goals and consults with only one person
The team responds with passivity or resistance. People lose a sense of responsibility for the results of their work. It slows down progress
Team members become defensive and begin to perform worse. The command is missing dialogue. People stop hearing each other
Team members compete with each other and play behind-the-scenes games. Virtually no partnerships and spirit of cooperation
Team members imitate the leader: they begin to lie and pretend, they stop working in good faith
Team members cease to value feelings and reckon with them. Relations between team members deteriorate. Various cliques and groupings are formed
Manage the team rigidly, but delegate authority and ensure personal and team accountability
Discuss problems and ways to solve them with team members. Demand that everyone express their views, and listen to them
Require the participation of all team members in planning changes. Foster a spirit of cooperation
Provide constructive criticism and use positive incentives. Train and educate the team
Use discussions to find ways to solve problems. Encourage new ideas and creativity
Openly admit mistakes and talk about what needs to be done
Consider people's feelings. Do not forget that laughter and joy energize the team
Team members feel responsible for the task assigned and keep promises
There are conditions for dialogue in the team. An innovative approach allows you to quickly and effectively solve problems
People are open to everything new. The team is flexible and able to quickly adapt to changes
Orders are given clearly and precisely. Team members have complete trust in each other. They are interested in professional growth
Team members do not fight with each other, but with problems.
The team has created incentives for creative thinking and work with full dedication
The team is honest. People learn from their mistakes. Atmosphere of trust
Friendships help strengthen working relationships
to put forward their ideas for discussion, to share laurels with people whom they consider adversaries, and to treat good workers not as their own property, but as a common property. It's difficult, but possible. Self-centered players can rally to save the game. Soldiers who hate each other are able to fight shoulder to shoulder to defeat a common enemy. Employees of the company, constantly fighting for power, stop pushing their elbows in order to jointly achieve what none of them would ever have achieved alone. The main thing is that everyone remembers the common goal and tasks. Here is how Kate describes one of these cases.
In the Serengeti reserve, tourists can watch an amazing sight: lions, zebras, antelopes and cheetahs, who came to the watering hole, drink from the same source. Thirst makes animals forget that one of them - predators and others - mining.
In the early 1990s, a certain industry faced a problem caused mainly by the penetration of Japanese manufacturers into the market. This pushed competitors to cooperate: they needed to reduce costs and increase productivity. They decided to develop industry standards for data exchange between suppliers and distributors. But some companies were embroiled in questionable litigation, while others simply didn't like or trust their competitors. At the first meeting, which lasted all day, one of the participants (alpha leader) expressed this about him as follows: “We are trying to establish cooperation, which is great, but what if tomorrow I want to kill one of you?” Another took a broader view of the problem: “People are always people. Let the companies do litigation, and we have a common goal.”
Brilliant, highly skilled executives could argue all they wanted about what language to use, what kind of data to collect, and in what form to present it. But all disagreements were outweighed by one main factor: the industry needed a solution that suited everyone. In the end, a tool was developed that stimulated the development of the industry.
Armenian-Russian relations and the military-strategic alliance between Yerevan and Moscow are based not on mutual sympathy or civilizational values, but on real interests. About this during the forum "Eurasian Economic Union and European Union: The Armenian factor" stated Russian political scientist Sergei Markedonov.
According to him, any country with regional geopolitical specifics of Armenia will, on the one hand, build allied relations with Russia, and, on the other hand, look for alternatives. He believes that Armenia is trying to maneuver, the same applies to Azerbaijan and Belarus. “When countries go far from the final and unilateral choice, realizing possible consequences such one-sidedness, they win. Armenia in 2013 set a course for joining the EAEU. And this has not prevented it from signing a new framework agreement with the EU now. There are also opposite examples - Georgia, Ukraine and Moldova,” Markedonov recalled.
An Armenian political scientist, director of the Analytical Center for Globalization and Regional Cooperation tried to oppose him Stepan Grigoryan, who stated that many have forgotten that Armenia made its civilizational choice a long time ago - it is a member of the Council of Europe. A supporter of European integration, Grigoryan believes that Armenia's participation in the EAEU is beneficial only to the oligarchy or big business, and does not reflect the interests of small and medium-sized businesses and civil society. “In the same framework agreement with the EU, everything is clearly spelled out, point by point, what role is assigned to civil society and representatives of SMEs. The EAEU, on the other hand, more defends the interests of the oligarchy involved in various corruption schemes,” Grigoryan emphasized. At the same time, he believes that from the point of view of Armenia's security, the presence of the 102nd Russian military base in Gyumri and a military alliance with Moscow.
However, using the examples of Moldova and Georgia, the expert was reminded that the oligarchy in the countries participating in the Eastern Partnership does not always advocate integration with the EAEU, and association with the EU often does not reflect the interests of small businesses. “Until recently, Moldova was perceived as the flagship of European integration, and the Moldovan oligarch actively advocates for this vector Vladimir Plohotnyuk. And in Georgia, after the conclusion of the Association Agreement with the EU, exports to the EU have completely decreased. At the end of 2016, the reduction was 13%, while imports from the EU grew by 20%,” one of the conference participants reminded Grigoryan.
Meanwhile, according to Markedonov, Russia understands that the EU is important for Armenia. “First, there is economic interest. Moscow is an important trading partner of Armenia, it occupies a leading position in the structure foreign trade countries. In addition, despite all the propaganda, the EU is also important for Russia. Russia continues to provide energy to Europe, cooperates with the West on the same Nagorno-Karabakh conflict and even the Ukrainian crisis,” he said.
Grigoryan, in turn, said that he did not question the need for a Russian-Armenian strategic partnership. According to him, the only problem is Moscow's attitude to the framework agreement between Yerevan and Brussels. Russia must understand that the document is not directed against a third party.
Markedonov, meanwhile, pointed to the fact that among the signatories of the document (the agreement between Armenia and the EU) from Brussels, in addition to the EU member states, there is also Euroatom (European Atomic Energy Community). “Armenian NPP - what is it, aren't there Russian interests here? If we return to the text, then it contains, although not imperative (with clear dates and schedules), but very unambiguous recommendations. Among them - "the closure and safe decommissioning of the Metsamor nuclear power plant and the early adoption of a road map or action plan, taking into account the need to replace it with new capacities." Meanwhile, this facility today provides about 40% of the country's energy needs,” the Russian political scientist emphasized.
In addition, according to him, as long as the Karabakh conflict and the closed border with Turkey exist, and Ankara supports Baku in this conflict, the security factor for Armenia will be dominant. And security, as you know, is provided by Russia. “Of course, there are claims against Russia regarding the sale of weapons to Azerbaijan, and after the April clashes last year in Moscow, certain conclusions were also drawn. But here, too, one must understand that Russia will not do final choice between Armenia and Azerbaijan, just as Armenia does not make the final choice between the West and Russia. After Georgia, the loss of Azerbaijan will mean a serious weakening of Russian positions in the region, which means a sharp strengthening of Turkey's positions in Azerbaijan. And this despite the unpredictability of relations between Moscow and Ankara,” Markedonov said.
The political scientist partly agrees with him. Vladislav Inozemtsev, who believes that the new agreement between Armenia and the EU cannot be interpreted as the transfer of Yerevan's foreign policy vector from Moscow to Brussels. “For all the construction of Armenia’s economic and military-political dependence on Russia, it cannot be said that Armenia, in the form of this document with the EU, has found an alternative to the EAEU,” he stressed, adding that the security factor that cannot be provided by the EU or West in general.
“The EU does not provide security for anyone. Moreover, the security of the European Union is ensured by another structure - NATO, and, as you know, such a country as Turkey is in NATO," the director of the Caucasus Institute (Yerevan) recalled in turn. Alexander Iskandaryan.
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We must listen carefully and read between the lines of the same first. To act asymmetrically means not to follow the lead of the enemy who is waiting for adequate measures. Step back from the situation and look from the outside. You act according to the knurled pattern of struggle and confrontation. Integration will lead to a better result. Change the rules and whoever changes the rules wins. Public property is something that can save the situation, namely, citizens living on a particular piece of land register a public association. The public interest is above any right of property. The public association calls into question the right of ownership of the land, which it considers its own by the right of succession of people's property, proceeding from the fundamental principles of continuity assumed by the Russian Federation in relation to the payment of debts of the USSR and the Russian Empire. The public association is aware of its responsibility to the possible claims of the former owners of the land from whom the right to use was expropriated land plot at the time of the arrival of the international socialists, also on the principles of the superiority of public interests, having made a redistribution in favor of the occupiers, who set the goal of transforming and destroying the Russian community by substitution. In this regard, the whole farce of perestroika and the so-called privatization are only further stages of this insidious plan with the distribution of stolen funds from the people.
The local community must return communal lands and establish rules for land use in accordance with the regulations based on the historical understanding of the role of the Russian community as the main element of statehood. The definition of the neighborhood and the right to it must have a quota. A public organization, as a filter and as a controlling body of traditions, can issue recommendations and, reasonably, they will have to be carried out, since it is not possible to allow any kind of ghetto to be built on whatever principle they were built. Even if it looks in full accordance with the current law, behind this there may be a criminal community united not only according to unwritten concepts, but moreover, organized according to the principles of tribal ties and or brainwashed in which cultural traditions are replaced by religious dogmas, which contradicts the tradition of the Russian community .
Therefore, with every object, whether physical or entity it is necessary to sign a roadmap for integration into the community, which is represented by a public association and a general gathering. Everyone can express their disagreement, whether it will pass through quotas with the right to settle, own and acquire, and most importantly, compliance with the main principle of integration, compliance with the Russian community.
If the people realize that after the putsch of 1917 it is under occupation and the nationalization carried out, and then privatization after 75 years, are links in one chain, then it will be quite easy to look at all the outrages that are happening around. Including the "lucky ones" if they understand their true place in this game, where in many ways their vile qualities are used in the dark against the people.
If you want to be integrated according to the roadmap proposed by the public organization, there will be no standing gathering. There is no need to degrade yourself to the point of fighting, wasting energy on unnecessary discussions. The public organization considers the land to be communal on the site on which this quarter - this district - this city - this region - this region - this republic stands.
These lands must be provided with profitability by the direct participation of people by returning to them the means of production and freedom.
No one is allowed to put up a fence if the citizens don't like it. What considerations are put forward in this case does not matter - the Earth is public property. How they got it into possession is not known and privatization is no consolation proof - the owner of the land is the people and only then will each person feel like the owner of his land and truly free, as well as the emergence of responsibility for committing acts in relation to his land.
Medvedev does not moderate the investment forum taking place today, he loses it and gives further interests Russian Federation as he did at his last meeting with the passenger Azarov.
No one will curtail investments, and it is difficult to call those investments that come from stolen money investments. Even if there is a desire to do this, someone is going to take out production, then here it is necessary to recall the experience of Argentine citizens who managed to restore life to all closed enterprises by launching them without allowing them to take out the equipment.
Judging by the above excerpts from the meeting, Medvedev is being threatened, and he is talking about the timing of the return of investments, about some kind of guarantees to some employees of foreign enterprises and organizations. Gives communication and further plunder the country growing within their country performers going to any lengths to satisfy their base needs without seeing the application of their abilities for the benefit of society due to the lack of moral barriers and loss of contact with society.
Sociopaths are difficult to identify in ordinary conditions of life, but very dangerous precisely because of this, having adapted well to the current conditions of life, they are very aggressive towards any manifestations of true social activity. Social potology may have different forms therefore, it is necessary to involve as many citizens as possible in the social movement with the possibility of correcting these pathologies through participation in social movement through integration by drawing up roadmaps to correct historical injustices through direct discussion. If this happened and the enterprise became de jure private through unfair de facto privatization, then this is a controversial enterprise. On one side is public opinion, on the other side are private interests. A private person must a priori respect the public interest and cannot put his own interest above the public interest.
The community has the right to profitable enterprises on its land. This should be consolidated and, where possible, brought into direct participation through corporatization and redistribution in indivisible parts to the community in order to receive income for the maintenance and improvement of infrastructure.
When high-rise buildings turn into ruins due to wear and tear, the current state will not take responsibility for the resettlement of these ruins. The fact that it is doing this now is only a confirmation of the trend that awaits the whole country from which they will squeeze out all the juices and wash their hands with a guarantee of a return on so-called investments. If you do not take power into your own hands through public associations, which initially has the meaning of a commune, then you can expect foreign legions in your country to protect some foreign capital, instead of sending your special forces soldiers to protect the Russian community in countries torn off by the international socialists from the bosom of the Russian Empire due to skillful manipulations with consciousness by introducing the concept of nationality, which had no circulation and use of the Russian community.
The integration process can be announced by public organizations. All questions on the disagreement of individuals in relation to the opinion of a public organization can be considered in court. The Court cannot ignore public opinion. Public opinion can be formed by combining lawsuits. Thus, the opinion expressing the interests of private capital will express disrespect for the public opinion of the land on which it wants to receive income. The desire to earn income by robbery is criminal and should be prosecuted. This applies to all actions economic activity where, starting from the so-called privatization, non-fulfillment of obligations to perform work, the use of slave labor of illegal workers, all this is waiting for evaluation. Can be corrected within the roadmap for each individual. In what terms it will be executed and how it will be decided by the public. In the end, as well as for a symbolic ruble, it should have been purchased for the same symbolic ruble and sold to a public organization and go back to your ideas about building a happy society for a single nation, invented of course, which does not apply to the Russian community that lived on this earth millennium and managed without external intervention of the millennium. Therefore, there is no need to fight the phenomenon, he should be offered to integrate into the Russian community.
The revolutionary egoism of entrepreneurship cannot run counter to the society from which it emerged and a priori cannot harm it.
Harmful to society either from the outside or a sociopath. Such a pathology is curable if he decides who he is and what he lives for, but this is possible only when he joins the integration process. If he is right and he is surrounded by a degraded society, then in the integration process he will improve the world around him and the people inhabiting it.