How to see the interesting in a person. Interesting facts about a person. Good and bad are figments of our imagination
The good and the bad are figments of our imagination!
As you know, any events taking place in our lives are not good or bad. This is just our interpretation of what is happening. We ourselves label them as good or bad, passing them through the filters of our perception. In essence, everything life situations are neutral. And we can give them a positive or negative color as we wish.
Most often, the labeling of "bad" and "good" labels occurs unconsciously. Most of us do not consciously choose our attitude to a situation. Selection is automatic, formulaic, based on our previous experience, beliefs, habits, etc. And not always, at first glance, "bad" events turn out to be such.
Everything "bad" is good!
Here is an excerpt from a story I found online. The author was not specified:
For example, after school I did not go to college. For me, this seemed like a very negative development. However, this allowed me to save years of my life, getting a profession that I absolutely did not need.
AT adolescence I was very successful in freestyle wrestling and won many competitions. At one tournament, I got a broken arm with a very strong displacement in the joint. On the one hand, this put an end to my sports career. On the other hand, this is clearly not what I would like to do in life. Also, it allowed me not to go to serve in our valiant army. And having a large number of friends who have served, to spend two years of their lives in nowhere, there was no desire at all.
Once I was abandoned by a girl whom I considered the meaning of my life. It was the collapse of my ideals. The world around ceased to exist. If someone had told me at that moment that this was the best thing that could have happened to me, I would have hated that person. But it turned out that way. It allowed me to completely rethink my life. Throw away all the old ineffective beliefs and behaviors! Stop living Groundhog Day without goals and dreams. I ceased to exist and began to live. All subsequent changes have been just incredible and they continue to go faster and faster. The only thing left of me was the photo in my passport. And I am very grateful to life for such a lesson.
I am sure that everyone, having dug a little in their memories, will find many similar events. What at the moment seems to us very bad, whether it be a dismissal from a job, a divorce, an illness, a failure in business, etc. - all this often turns out to be useful and necessary in the future.
Wisdom is to see the positives in everything!
The ability to find pluses in seemingly obviously negative and disadvantageous events is the simplest guarantee of happiness and success. It is impossible to unbalance a person who finds his pluses and advantages in any situation. The internal state of people who are positively tuned is many times better than that of people who are looking everywhere first of all for minuses and shortcomings. I think it is obvious to everyone that a positively minded person is many times more likely to succeed than his depressive antipode.
Businessman with smile and good mood will be closer to closing the deal. A cheerful and positive guy will have much more success with girls. The chain can be continued indefinitely.
Many tend to underestimate the degree of their influence on the perception of events. However, I will give an example of one informative story.
What is freedom of choice?
Two brothers grew up in one dysfunctional family. Mother was a drunkard and a drug addict, father also drank and stole a lot. Children grew up in a terrible environment. As a result, the mother drank herself, the father was sent to prison. One of the brothers tried drugs very early, got in touch with a criminal group and went to prison. Then again and again. When asked during interrogation why he went to prison, he told the story of his childhood, how his parents behaved and said that he had.
His brother, on the contrary, became a successful businessman and a very famous person. When journalists learned the story of his childhood, they were amazed and asked how he was able to achieve such heights, having spent his childhood in terrible conditions. He said that I saw how his parents lived and what it led to. I have there was no choice to do otherwise.
The same environment, the same upbringing, the same opportunities. The diametrically opposite situation became possible due to the difference in the perception of events. It is this difference that often gives some a taste of joy, others pain and suffering. It is she who makes us feel happy or unhappy.
We don't always choose events. But we choose how to treat them!
Everyone can have a positive outlook on life. And you can start today. You can take advantage of the fact that you missed your plane. Or a few perks. You can find positive things in being sick. You can find advantages in breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend. You can find a lot of positives in being fired from your job. You can find positives in anything. Or you can find cons. However, now you understand that you yourself make a choice. Knowing this, you will be much more aware than you were before. And even if at first not everything will turn out, gradually it will become a habit, and you will be amazed at the changes that will occur around you.
There is a wonderful way to make it a habit. A few years ago, Will Bowen came up with the simple idea of putting a purple bracelet on your arm to live 21 days without complaining, whining or complaining. If during this time, a person still speaks or thinks about something negative - he puts the bracelet on the other hand and starts counting again until he wears the bracelet on one hand for 21 days. People's lives are changing beyond recognition.
Try to live in a world without negativity. Will you like it? ;)
We see ourselves in people. Usually unconscious. And not only "negative", but also "positive". We can see others as beautiful, talented, kind, masculine/feminine... And not suspect that these are our qualities. To distinguish between "this is mine or his", you need to know yourself well.
Why we perceive and see people distortedly and how to change it
- Projections.
- Transfer.
- Beliefs.
- Black and white filter or splitting into good and bad.
- The context of the situation, our state and mood
1. Projections.
We see ourselves in people. Usually unconscious. And not only "negative", but also "positive". We can see others as beautiful, talented, kind, masculine/feminine... And not suspect that these are our qualities.
To distinguish between "this is mine or his", you need to know yourself well.
To know yourself, you must allow yourself to see yourself.
And this is usually prevented by the fear of being bad and being left without love. And the fear of being a "fool". And again, both in the case of "negative" and in the case of "positive" qualities.
Suddenly I find out that it is actually me who is "irresponsible", and not the neighbor whom I call that. Then I'm bad. Then I can't be loved.
Suddenly I think that I am kind and smart (that's how a colleague whom I see as such). And in fact, it turns out that I'm not like that. I will be made a laughing stock as a fool.
What if I really turn out to be kind and smart? Then I again “like a fool” - for thirty years I thought badly of myself and allowed myself to be treated badly, I missed so much and allowed so much. "Like a fool."
What to do: work with your value, with unconditional self-acceptance, with centering to finally see yourself, gradually, step by step, to know yourself and accept yourself.
2. Transfer.
We see people as our parents and other significant adults. I would say that there are two categories here: "fears" and "hopes".
On the one hand, it’s scary that now he’ll scream at me, devalue me, won’t hear me, won’t understand (like mom, like dad).
On the other hand, it seems that he is kind, he will love me, he will not reject me, he will take care of me (like mom, like dad - no, not in reality, but in the image that I have in my dreams).
"Positive" projections and "positive" transferences ("hopes") give rise to falling in love and a cocoon of illusions around the beloved.
What to do: work with your stability, support, with growing up, with self-awareness. If I am an adult and realize this - I no longer care that there was bad or there was no good in childhood - I can already love myself (to fill in those deficits that, being active, created “hopes”), and protect myself, if someone decides to yell at me or devalue me.
3. Beliefs.
- Own. The conception of the other as of oneself. If I go on vacation to the dacha, then I also think about something else, that he goes to the dacha (“Where else?”).
- Family. What they did or what they said in the family. "All bosses are thieves."
- Associative. If I see a person who looks like my friend, then I think that he is the same as my friend.
- "Scientific". What came from popular psychology and others like it. Determination of character traits by face, state by posture, etc. "The smart ones have a high forehead."
- Stereotypes."All Russians are sincere and with balalaikas."
- Fashionable. If photography is fashionable now, I think that a new acquaintance is also interested in photography.
- Ligaments.“If…then…” If a person has some quality or property, then another property is attributed to him. "Smart means honest."
What to do: be aware of your beliefs, develop flexibility of thinking, the ability to accept something else, a neutral position from which you can see "as is" and not "as you want."
4. Black and white filter or splitting into good and bad.
Idealization of the image or demonization. If it seems that “he is good”, then the whole bundle of “good” qualities is immediately assigned to a person. And vice versa.
What to do: work with inner ambivalence, connect opposite poles into a coherent reality.
5. The context of the situation, our state and mood, the state and mood of the person we perceive also affect.
May be influenced by information we already know about the person from third parties or other sources, which served as the starting point for the above phenomena. May take place social phenomena : primacy effect, novelty effect, halo effect, etc. published .
Images: Pablo Picasso
Elena Ivanova
P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness - together we change the world! © econet
Just interesting and entertaining, but completely useless facts about a person, his life and body.
This material is for entertainment purposes only and does not claim to be a scientific article.
Read interesting facts about a person and get enlightened!
- It turns out that the strongest muscle in the human body is the tongue.
- Not one living being in the world, except for man, is not able to draw a straight line.
- Note that a person cannot sneeze with their eyes open.
- Refuses that women blink 2 times more often than men.
- The human heart, in size, is approximately equal to the size of his fist and weighs about 240 grams.
- If you add up the weight of all the bacteria living in the human body, it will be equal to approximately two kilograms.
- An adult person inhales and exhales about 23,000 times a day.
- The right lung is larger than the left. And, accordingly, holds a larger volume of air.
- There are about two million sweat glands on the human body.
- People are born without kneecaps. They appear between the ages of two and six.
- The human eye distinguishes about 2,000,000 shades of color.
- More than 40,000 different bacteria live and thrive in the human mouth.
- Nerve impulses travel through the human body at a speed of 90 meters per second.
- There are 206 bones in the adult human body, although at birth there are about 300 of them.
- From the fats contained in the human body, you can make about seven bars of soap.
- Toenails grow 4 times slower than fingernails.
- There are approximately 70 kilometers of nerves in the human body.
- The probability of matching fingerprints in different people is about 1/24 million.
- Only 30% of the world's population has its own opinion. The remaining 70% are dependent on the opinion of the majority.
- Among people, about 1 percent stutters. And a third of them are male.
- The surface area of a human lung is equal to the area of a tennis court.
- Each person's tongue print is as individual as fingerprints.
- The older a person gets, the less taste sensations he experiences.
- The only part of the human body that does not regenerate is the teeth.
- The human head weighs about 3.5 kilograms.
- While watching TV, a person burns fewer calories than while sleeping.
- The anatomy of the human body does not allow you to lick your own elbow.
- The length of all human blood vessels is exactly 100,000 kilometers.
- At rest, that is, lying down, a person consumes about 500 liters of oxygen.
- The human eye fully adapts to darkness in 60 to 80 minutes.
- Hair on a human head grows at a rate of 0.4 millimeters per minute.
- The 24,000 taste receptors found on the human tongue work best at 24 degrees Celsius.
- 25,000 babies are born on our planet every day. Approximately 3 people per second.
- There are about 18 percent left-handers on Earth. Of these, 10 percent are men and 8 women.
- Of the female names, the most common name in the world is Anna, among male names - Muhamed. Well, the most common surname is Chang.
- The human brain processes information transmitted by the eye in just 1/20 of a second.
- Today, almost half of the world's population has never spoken on the phone.
- Each person blinks, on average, 17,000 times a day.
- Food is completely digested by the body in about 12 hours.
- Snores more than 40 percent of people.
- A person perceives 90 percent of information about the world around him through vision.
- In a lifetime, the average person eats about 50 tons of food and drinks 50,000 liters of liquid.
- The area of human skin is about two square meters.
- On average, in a lifetime, a person sheds up to 18 kilograms of skin.
- According to statistics, the most frequently broken bone is the collarbone.
- The multi-colored reflections that occur when you rub your eyes are called "Phosphenes".
- During a sneeze, a person's heart stops for a moment. With prolonged, continuous sneezing, you can earn serious problems. Even a heart attack.
- If you do not shave all your life, a man can grow a beard 9 meters long.
- Hair on the human body does not grow only on the palms, soles of the feet and lips.
- When frightened, a person turns pale due to the fact that the body, protecting itself from the bite of a potential predator, takes blood into the body.
- Lack of sleep affects the ability to remember quite a lot, worsening it.
- You can't commit suicide just by stopping your breath. The person, at the same time, will lose consciousness and start breathing again.
- Only 2 percent of people can see infrared or ultraviolet radiation.
- A hair on a human head lives from 3 to 6 years.
- It is generally accepted that the brain works slower during sleep than during activity. But this is absolutely not true. in fact, the opposite is true.
- Approximately one in 50 people on the planet is practically indistinguishable from smells.
- A person cannot taste food without saliva in the mouth.
- Volume Bladder a person about 500 milliliters.
- A person is not able to tickle himself, as the brain recognizes and does not take into account these sensations.
- The human jawbone is the strongest in the body.
- Out of sixty years, a person sleeps for about twenty.
- Chewing gum while cutting onions won't make you cry.
- The skeleton of an adult human weighs 8 kilograms.
- More people die each year from bee stings than from snake bites.
- If you give a group of people a new pen, 73 percent write their name.
- The contraction of the masticatory muscles reaches a force of 400 kilograms.
- Every person living on earth is a relative of another in at least 50 tribes.
- Umbilicus is the scientific name for the navel.
How to see the aura and stop making mistakes in people?! After all, the aura is physical manifestation soul, it cannot be faked, which means you cannot be deceived!
1. What is an aura?
2. What are the layers of the aura?
3. Why learn to see the aura?
4. How to see the aura?
5. Interesting fact!
What is an aura?
Ancient esoteric knowledge says that a person consists of several bodies, where the physical body is only one of many.
An aura¹ is a three-dimensional energy shell that surrounds the human body. As a rule, it has the shape of an ellipse. The better the state of health of a person, the wider and brighter his aura.
Someone said that the aura is the spiritual signature of a person.
Noticed!
People with a radiant, clear aura have high level spiritual development, and those whose aura is cloudy have a tendency to unrighteous thoughts and deeds.
Since the aura cannot be faked, looking at a person, you can accurately determine who is in front of you and whether it is worth dealing with him.
The existence of the aura is scientifically confirmed!
Currently, ultra-precise devices have already been created that allow you to fix the aura! But you can see the aura with your own eyes! Read on!
What are the layers of the aura?
First layer is located directly near the skin, and can tell about physical health.
Second layer called mental, it can be used to determine the mental state of a person.
third layer of the aura called spiritual. It reflects the spiritual development of man.
All three layers flow into each other and together can reach from 20 cm to 1.5 meters.
Why learn to see the aura?
There are people who have a well-developed extrasensory perception, and they are able to distinguish subtle bodies people, see them in color and diagnose the state of the body according to these data.
We can say that they have a natural ability to see the aura.
But this can be learned! What for?
The aura and its state can tell a lot about a person. By its color and intensity, you can determine the mood, character and even thoughts of a person!
In addition, the shape and color of the aura can be used to draw conclusions about the state of health.
How to see an aura?
For the first experience, you will need a quiet, secluded place where you can relax. The light in the room should not be too bright, but it should not be completely dark either. If there is a bright day outside the window, you can curtain the windows, and if it is already evening, then light candles or a night light.
Experience number 1. How to see the aura around the hand!
You will need a white, black or gray screen, it can be a piece of paper, a piece of cloth or a wall.
Stretching your hand in front of you and slightly spreading your fingers, you need to look at it, but at the same time keep the focus in the background. That is, you need to look not at the hand, but as if through it ..
During the experiment, it is advisable not to blink. In a few minutes, a transparent haze, a kind of glow, will be visible around the hand. This is the human aura!
Similarly, one can learn to see the aura of objects.
Experience number 2. How to see the aura around your body!
Having trained to see the aura around the hand, you can move on to more challenging task and try to see the energy shell around your body. To do this, you need a large mirror and some kind of background in front of it. It's better to take off your clothes.
Looking in the mirror, you need, as in the first experiment, to focus on the background and look as if through yourself.
Very soon one will notice a luminous outline surrounding the body, very similar to that seen around the hand. At first, it will appear and disappear, but by keeping a diffused look, you can achieve a clear picture.
Experience number 3. How to see the aura around another person!
As you train, you can learn to see the aura without any solid background. It is at this stage that it is best to learn to see the aura of another person. All that is needed for this is to focus on a person with your eyes (at first it is better to concentrate on his head) and look as if through him.
With the practice of contemplating the aura, one can notice that the shell around the observed object has a color tint.
By training their ability to aura vision, practitioners begin to notice an ever brighter radiance and note deformations of the biofield of different people. According to the deformation of the aura, one can determine the state of health of a person as a whole from his individual organs.
It is believed that children up to 3-4 years old see the aura. If the child does not like the color of the person's aura, he may cry or refuse to be picked up, or vice versa, he will smile and show sympathy.
Growing up, we lose the ability to see the aura, but if desired, it can be restored!
Notes and feature articles for a deeper understanding of the material
¹ Aura is a shell invisible to the human eye that surrounds the human body, or any other living object, that is, an animal, plant, mineral, etc. (
Colleague, friend, potential partner... The person is nice to you, but you do not fully understand what kind of person he is, how he will react to your vulnerability, can you trust him with a secret, ask for help? Psychological life hack sites are full of articles like “If you want to know someone, ask them 38 questions.” Let's imagine what it looks like: you sit a colleague or acquaintance across from you, ask him questions according to the list and carefully document the answers. How many will agree to this?
The other extreme is to consider that it is possible to unravel a person only after a few months or years of close communication. Coach John Alex Clark is sure: it's not about the amount of time, but about observation and willingness to link facts into a single chain. There are a few simple tricks that allow you to detect patterns in behavior and understand character.
1. Notice the details
Every day we perform thousands of routine actions: talking on the phone, buying food. People's actions can provide insight into their personality and help predict how they will behave in similar situations.
Example A. Someone who chooses the same dish every day in a restaurant may avoid change in life and dislike uncertainty. Such a person may turn out to be a faithful and devoted husband, but it will be difficult to convince him to move to another country or make a risky investment.
Example B. A person who enjoys gambling and other risky ventures is likely to take risks in other areas of life. For example, he may quit his job without finding a new one and not taking care of the financial "airbag".
Example C. A person who never forgets to look both ways before crossing the road may be cautious. He will carefully consider every decision before making it, and will only take calculated risks.
By analyzing a person's behavior in one area, you can evaluate how he will manifest himself in other areas of life.
2. Pay attention to communication methods
How does he communicate? Does he build relationships with everyone or single out the closest in spirit, and with the rest he tries to stay within the bounds of decency? Does he act on a whim, without a clear plan, is he guided by impressions or does he try to analyze everything, does not trust his instincts and strives to be objective? Is he more of a practitioner who lives in the world of facts, tasks, measurable values, or a thinker for whom ideas, concepts, schemes and images are important?
3. Discuss relationships at work with mutual friends
It seems that “washing the bones” is an empty and meaningless occupation. But the main thing is what qualities a person gives to others, how he interprets their motivations. Speaking of others, we most often notice what is in ourselves. Our personal "pantheon" can say what we value in people, whom we strive to be like, what qualities we are trying to change in ourselves.
The more often a person evaluates others as kind-hearted, happy, emotionally stable, or polite, the more likely they are to have these traits themselves. Reasoning like “yes, he’s just pretending, he’s digging a hole for someone” may mean that the interlocutor is prudent and understands only relationships built on profit.
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