I have a fat wife. Overweight and relationships. Why do husbands leave fat wives and go to slender mistresses. I don't want a wife anymore - she's turned into a fat, lazy cow
A distant relative is crying: his wife is disgusted, fat, infantile, even the thought of intimacy with her is demonic
I don't want a wife anymore - she's turned into a fat, lazy cow
09:38 March 02, 2018A distant relative is crying: his wife is disgusted, fat, infantile, even the thought of intimacy with her infuriates. He does not get divorced, because the daughter keeps, and the material resources are invested a lot. But he doesn’t know how to live with her, he no longer has the strength to look at this domestic ruminant animal. His claims are a drum to her, she knows that she will not go anywhere.
What should he say to that? Tie the organ in a knot, if you don’t want to, don’t do it, they don’t force you, get a mistress and all the business?
Nothing would have delayed me in such a situation where there is no moral and physical satisfaction. Child? Who does not allow him to communicate with him after the divorce. But when he raised the issue of divorce, his lover was furious and called him traitor.
Why change something? Everything suits her, after the decree she never went to work, hiding behind the fact that the baby is often sick, and they do not get out of hospitals.
I quote the injured party - the husband:“Yes, I don’t mind that she is sitting at home, only if there was a benefit from this. She turned into a fat cow with greasy hair, things scattered around, a mess in the kitchen that you don’t want to go in, let alone eat. How many times he hinted that it would be nice to take care of her appearance, she has everything for this. But after that, scandals began, then he would attribute my ex, then he would arrange jealousy scenes for a colleague. A total lunatic. What kind of sex life, if I'm already sick of it. """
Many go through cooling and there are enough reasons for this. But I don’t understand women at all who, when they get married, turn into a kind of Freken Bok - a huge woman in an apron. They are willing to put a big fat end to their sexiness and attractiveness, simply because they are so comfortable and lazy.
It turns out that the traitor in this situation is not a husband at all, but a wife who doesn’t care what feelings her husband feels when she sees her. Is not it?
Today, the entire Top is littered with discussions of a certain post in Ru.Psychologist, where, as I understand it, the husband asks for advice on how to delicately hint to his wife that she has gained weight and encourage her to lose weight.
I didn't read the post. And I will not look: and so everything is clear. And they probably advise you to buy her, as if by chance, a beautiful dress one size smaller, or a very beautiful, but tight swimsuit, you can combine this with an invitation to a reception where everyone will be in evening dresses; go on a diet yourself and start going to the gym; talk about someone who lost weight with the help of a magical technique; leave in sight books about losing weight and about the dangers of being overweight; arouse jealousy by pretending to be interested in a stump, etc.
The reaction of bloggers is also understandable.
Lena Miro writes that only the most miserable man will live with a fat woman, and not with Lena Miro. Therefore, there is nothing to talk about.
But if suddenly a terrible thing happened, and a rich man married, as expected, a beauty, but she did not observe herself and grew fat (“she became pissed,” as this great woman writes), then he has this way out: he must humiliate her in every possible way, beat her, to drive out onto the balcony to freeze, and threaten to completely kick her out if she does not throw off 3 cm at the waist in a month, and then every month until the wife returns to the desired volumes. And only Lena Miro's book will help her in this - you can order it there.
Still, Lena has a strange idea of rich people. Do they only marry beauties? Someone lives with the same wife that he had back in Soviet times. Among their children there are many marriages of convenience, through marriages all sorts of business alliances are established. So it was and so it will be, although someone for the sake of PR can afford to take a dowry.
Then, the husband must insult his wife, beat ... Does Miro really think that every man has such a need? Units can deliberately mock people, and these are very unhealthy people.
Well, I'm not talking about the fact that a person who wants to lose weight will find a better way than reading her amateurish compiler books.
Another blogger with a nickname like “Kiss my ass” writes that a husband should be ready to tell the bitter truth. Once a woman told her that she had recovered, although the weight gain was very small - this made her go on a diet, and she is grateful to that woman.
Some write that there is nothing to complain about, that the wife who has given birth is no longer as slender as in the brides, and that it is vile to reproach her for this.
Many believe that the letters in “Ru. Psychologist” is composed by the blog owners themselves. May be. This is much easier than studying letters from readers and then correcting them. In all such rubrics, they do so. But this does not mean that such a problem.
I myself know of two such cases. In both cases, the women became very fat after giving birth and could not lose weight. The husbands said, “I'm sorry, dear. I understand everything, but I can no longer sleep with you. You make me depressed. I can become so impotent! I don’t refuse to help children, the apartment is yours.” And they left.
The women were left alone. With kids. They never lost weight. One has already died due to cancer. thyroid gland, but she managed to put her son on his feet. The second raised 2 good sons. She is very sick. They even cut off her stomach, put a net, she has a face and much more. She went to work by taxi, as she did not fit into the bus turnstile. But she can't lose weight. She really eats a lot. She says that this is her only joy. What is this lack of will? But she has enough will to live, to work, to do everything around the house, to be treated. Maybe it should be considered a kind of addiction? Let's say "food addiction" and be treated as a kind of drug addiction? Everyone knows that dealing with addictions is difficult.
Husbands, in fact, helped with money, and saw their sons. But, interestingly, they live as bachelors. They never married, although they probably had some women. I think that they divorced not because the fat wife did not arouse desire in them, but because they themselves had problems with this desire. Most often, impotent women change women: everyone hopes that this time it will work out with this woman.
So it is not necessary from a sick head to a healthy one. In my opinion, it’s not necessary to tell your wife that she has gained weight - she already knows and worries everything. Can lose weight - lose weight. If you can't see her anymore, leave. Just keep in mind that you may be leaving a sick person alone with his misfortune. It's not very pretty, anyway.
Although, all people are different. Maybe someone lacks beatings or humiliation. And someone is stimulated by every sideways glance, and they climb out of their skin, just to seem perfect. last people I am sincerely sorry: you cannot put a scarf on every mouth.
So there are no general recipes.
Why does the husband go to his mistress? How often do wives ask this question, crying into the pillow in the evenings? Of course, there can be many reasons, because family life individual. However, it is worth considering that perhaps you yourself are to blame for what happened. Psychologist-sexologist Valentin Denisov-Melnikov talks about why wives should not let themselves go, turning from a princess into "I'm a mother."
“Men take lovers for different reasons. Today we’ll talk about the case when a woman launched herself, gained excess weight and cellulite, and after that she had problems in the family. I know hundreds of such stories. I heard from my clients who came to me both as a psychologist and as a specialist in corrective massage. Usually a woman needs the help of both a head specialist and a body specialist. it is necessary to correct both the settings that led to weight gain, and the body itself, of course. For example, I remember a client who came for a massage with the following story:
25 years old, gave birth to a child, thought that now the family has already developed, there is a son, you can relax. Relaxed up to 100kg. My husband has a mistress. Half my weight. He went to her almost immediately. That's why I came to get myself in shape.
The story is typical. Women often think that if they got married and gave birth, then life took place. "I'm a mother" - serves as an excuse for everything. But practice shows that this argument does not convince husbands. Fair or not, if a woman wants to have a strong family with a decent man, then her communication skills, sexual functioning and appearance must be on top. Well, at least two of these three parameters should be very good. Otherwise, the man begins to have questions:
And why do I need it?!
And there are so many young, beautiful, slender and thirsty women around. Guess what's going on? Yes, maybe I write not very pleasant things, but I know what a relaxed attitude towards their appearance. Therefore, I say that an excellent physical shape will increase not only your self-esteem, but also the chances of a happy personal life. But even if you think that I'm not quite right, read what men themselves think about being overweight and women's cellulite. Who do you think they would prefer? So, here are some typical opinions from visitors to my site site
For those who are screwed up by their children and husband, maybe flabby cellulite Poles are a common thing, but for those who are just about to get married, with cellulite priests and legs, there is little chance of finding a good man.
We men like those whom we would prefer for procreation (so that the offspring can inherit the same traits). A man is looking for a healthy female, a woman is looking for a healthy male. Women, would you pay attention to a sports guy or a fat one in a company if you had the goal of procreation? Whose genes would you like to pass on to your child? A man will choose a cellulite girl with overweight or sportswear? It's obvious. You can find someone for sex and with cellulite, but for strongly cellulite women, the demand is much lower.
I agree. When I was 20kg overweight and covered in cellulite, I was a jolly person anyway and the soul of the company. But they looked at me more often as a friend. Now the same friends of mine look at me in a completely different way - with a sexual interest, with a desire to have a relationship. I received three marriage proposals in a year. And when I was fat, no one called me to marry. So men do not like fat and cellulite when it comes to sex and offspring. And wives need to remember this, otherwise the man will leave for a thin and sonorous girl.
Cellulite and fat suck. Because of this, I am now forced to have sex in the dark, because I am ashamed of my body. And I'm not going to be proud of it, but I want to get rid of it. If my husband were cheating on me now, it would be unpleasant, but as a human being I would understand him.
100kg does not excite a man, but girls weighing 50kg are very beautiful, seductive, desirable. Their fat does not hang, butt and thighs do not look like jelly. They are mobile, energetic, flexible. And oh, how a man gets up on them! And he got up on the fat women only at Rubens. All you hear is "Rubens, Rubens." And all because thick legs did not seem beautiful to anyone else.
I have a lover who constantly praises my body. When I saw my wife, I understood why. I'm terribly afraid that becoming a wife, I will let myself go. No, you always have to keep yourself in shape. Then the man will not look at others so much.
Here's what men and women think. But the good news for wives is that if they do stop thinking that "Family is about getting fat together" and take care of their appearance - they start to eat more properly, go in for sports, are like a massage - then they will have every chance not only to avoid cooling her husband, but also if this does happen, to quickly arrange her personal life again. So, wives, take care of yourself, otherwise mistresses are still leading in the competition in appearance! ”, - summed up the psychologist-sexologist, aesthetic massage specialist Valentin Denisov-Melnikov ...