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Step 18 Small steps lead to big success
Small steps lead to big success
The essence of faith is to take the first step, even if you can't see the whole staircase.
Martin Luther King Jr.
Any of the changes that I have managed to achieve both in my own life and in the life of organizations began with small steps that gradually developed into a significant achievement. Not a single case was solved "in one fell swoop." So my success is always a steady approach to the goal, step by step, day by day. Sometimes, of course, everything goes so well that the project is implemented almost by itself, but this is usually the result of my daily efforts. The results of small actions merge together, and it is from them, and not from a single titanic effort of all forces, that the contours of a realized dream begin to take shape. At this stage, I will suggest that you break down big things into small tasks and take small but regular actions.
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The 5 Steps to Success are the specific steps you need to take and know at the start in order to reach your goals quickly and effortlessly. A friendly kick to those who lack motivation.Let's take a look at 5 steps to success today. This is the beginning of the beginning. Having introduced them into my practice six months ago, I already have positive results today.
Here are the 5 steps to success:
First step.
Regularly ask yourself the question: "How is what I'm doing now moving me towards the goal?"
We write a question on a piece of paper, stick it on the walls, next to the monitor, on the refrigerator, put it as a screensaver on the computer screen, on a mobile phone, etc. It is necessary that this question flashed before my eyes constantly.
And right now, take a piece of paper and a pen and write this question down.
When a reminder with a similar question regularly stands before your eyes - and put maximum effort and energy into something that brings you closer to the goal. It would seem that just some piece of paper with a simple question, but it really works!
Second step.
Create the right, successful environment and ignore/walk away from the toxic (negative) environment.
We surround ourselves with those from whom we can learn and "feed" with useful knowledge and skills. The problem of people who cannot become successful/rich/happy is that they are surrounded by the wrong people who prevent them from becoming what they want to be, people who pull back to the bottom, to a low standard of living. And this must be fought.
Reach out to positive, positive people. Those who encourage
If in real life there are no such acquaintances, friends from whom you can learn, we create a virtual environment.
We take information from books, podcasts, videos. We learn virtually from those people who are more successful than you or whom you want to be like and have the same qualities or, for example, learn how to earn the same as they do.
Read. Personally, I read at least 4 books a month.
My book I am currently reading is called
A book about the brain and amazing things that we can CREATE ourselves. The book is based on mind control techniques, as well as how to activate the work of the right hemisphere. After all, it is the right hemisphere that helps us create the very magic and miracles that we are waiting for, fulfills desires and our dreams.
If you want your life to become filled, happy, magical, read the book. "Heavenly 911. How to ask for help from the right hemisphere of the brain", Robert Stone
Get started with this book or check out my bookshelf selections:
Important!
There should always be people around you from whom you can learn something, people who are better than you in something. You don't need to appear the smartest and most knowledgeable. Strive to have people around you that you want to be like. If you have such people in your environment, you yourself will grow and progress at a crazy speed.
Third step.
Start keeping a diary/notebook, . It really helps to control yourself and your life.
- my home organizer. Print and use ready-made forms (5 pieces).
In general, the best option for me personally is 3 tasks per day. They look like this:
- Red - a burning task that is vital to complete on this particular day.
- Yellow is a task of medium importance.
- Green - a bonus task that can be done in your free time or rescheduled for another day.
Fourth step.
Build confidence and expand your comfort zone.
We all love to do what we are accustomed to and this is the specificity of our brain. Everything new introduces into a stupor, creates discomfort, and at every opportunity you want to jump off and again plunge into what you know and what you are used to.
We enjoy what is familiar to us, and for it to become familiar to us, it must be familiar to us.
That is, you need to GRADUALLY move in a new direction, GRADUALLY expand your comfort zone. Over time, the new becomes familiar, we become more comfortable, and with great confidence and desire we begin to do what we were even afraid to think about before.
What else affects self-confidence?
It may seem strange, but when you praise other people, you notice good qualities in them - this is reflected in yours. It makes you powerful and strong, because the "mirror effect" works. When you say good things about others, you mirror your own words and your confidence grows.
Fifth step.
Make a wish board. On the board of desires, draw up your goals in the form of pictures, visualize daily, connect affirmations.
Open International Competitionmulti-genre art
"My Step to Success!"
Moscow, Russia
Due to force majeure International competition announced on September 22
postponed to September 23 at the new location:Moscow, st. Partizanskaya, 23 House of Culture "Architects".
Metro: Youth
This Regulation is a public invitation.
Goals and objectives of this project:
- Discovery and popularization of new names and talents, support and real assistance in the creative realization of the participants.
- Improving the professional skills of leaders of creative teams and teachers, strengthening friendly creative ties, expanding the musical horizons and repertoire.
- Education of artistic taste, preservation of folk traditions and cultural ties.
- Creating the atmosphere of an unforgettable creative holiday.
The following are invited to participate in the competition:
solo performers, creative teams of children's music schools, children's art schools, houses and centers for children's, folk art, students of educational institutions, non-professional and professional performers, participants in amateur performances, choirs, orchestras, ensembles, theaters, students of art schools and art schools, schools and other educational institutions representing all types and genres of artistic creativity.
We are open to all creative people!
The age of participants is unlimited - from 2 years to 85 and above!
The competition applies an individual approach to each participant, taking into account the age of the performers.
Attention!
Entries must indicate the actual age of the participants on the day of the competition, and NOT the age category.
The organizing committee will determine the age category of participants.
Competition Awards
- The main prize of the GRAND PRIX Organizing Committee Cup and Diploma.
- In each nomination GRAND PRIX WINNERS.
- In each nomination WINNERS of I-II-III DEGREE
- "Diploma" 1st, 2nd, 3rd degree;
- "Participant".
- The teams that became Laureates of the 1st degree are awarded:
- The teams that became Laureates of the II and III degrees are awarded:
- Diplomas for each member of the team and a Cup for the team.
Also, by a special decision of the JURY, the team that became the Laureate of the 1st, 2nd or 3rd degree can be awarded medals to each participant.
Soloists who have become Laureates of I, II and III degrees are awarded a Diploma and a medal.
Teams that have become Diploma winners of the 1st, 2nd, 3rd degree are awarded Diplomas to each member of the team.
By the unanimous decision of the JURY, the distinguished contestants are awarded memorable souvenirs, valuable gifts and special prizes from the Organizing Committee and our Partners as a bonus for brightness, artistry, originality, originality!
According to the results of the competition, duplication of prizes is allowed (two first places, two second places, etc.). Grand Prix is awarded only by unanimous decision of the JURY!
If situations arise when there are no worthy contenders for the Grand Prix and prizes, these titles are not awarded.
For preparation for the competition and for strengthening international cultural ties, all leaders, teachers and sponsors are awarded Letters of Appreciation from the Organizing Committee.
At the end of the competition, the specialized members of the JURY hold round tables, mini Master Classes with an analysis of the performance of the contestants, give recommendations.
OUR ADVANTAGES:
PRIZE for team leaders with an application of 20 people or more.
as well as:
- Conducting mini Master classes in specialized art genres on the day of the competition is absolutely free;
- Real help in creative realization, namely: promotion of the brightest and most talented participants of the competitions "My Step to Success!" in concert programs in Moscow and the Moscow region;
- Certificates for the best participants for free or preferential participation in subsequent competitions;
- Certificates for a free exclusive modern vocal lesson in a music workshop; assistance in recording a song in a professional studio;
- Certificate for the right to SPEECH at the opening of the next competition as an Honored Guest with payment of a cash grant!
- Diplomas for teams and each participant.
- Letters of thanks to leaders, teachers and accompanists;
- The winners are given exclusive gifts from the Organizers and Partners;
- Sweet prize with the symbols of the competition for each participant;
- Free photo shooting of the competitive performance of each participant;
- Possibility of professional video-shooting of "Kamerton" studio;
- Flexible system of discounts;
- Big professional scene. Comfortable dressing rooms;
- Large hall for fine arts and fine arts;
- Delicious buffet.
Financial conditions of the competition
The performer or collective has the right to participate in several nominations, to perform several competitive numbers in one nomination, subject to payment for an additional nomination or competitive number (the number is not limited).
Contestants participating in an additional nomination, or performing several contest numbers in one nomination, pay an amount equal to the main registration fee with a 10% discount, according to the number of participants.
- Participant (soloist) -2800 rubles for participation in one nomination for one competition number
- Duets and trios - 1700 rubles for each participant in one nomination for one competition number , including registration of the application 500 rubles per person;
- Team from 4 to 8 people. - 1200 rubles for each participant in one nomination for one contest number
- Team from 9 to 14 people. - 1000 rubles for each participant in one nomination for one contest number , including registration of the application 200 rubles per person;
- For groups of 15 people and more - 850 rubles for each participant in one nomination for one competition number , including registration of the application 150 rubles per person;
- Choreographer's work - 10,000 rubles. for each song submitted , including registration of the application 1000 rubles per application;
- Dance, musical accompaniment for vocalists, live backing vocals, etc. - 500 rubles per person.
- Fine Arts and DPI - 1700 rubles for each participant. You can submit up to 5 entries , including registration of the application 300 rubles per person;
Competition nominations:
VOCAL CREATIVITY
solo, duet, ensembles, choirs:
- academic, folk, jazz, pop vocals, rock vocals, folk, choral singing, art song, chanson, VIA.
- Performance of one competition number to the phonogram "minus" or "live" up to 4 minutes.
CHOREOGRAPHIC CREATIVITY
solo, duet, ensembles:
- folk, modern, classical, demi-classical, ballroom, street dances, dances of the peoples of the world, alternative choreography (with elements of acrobatics), step, dance theater, folk dance, etc.
- In the nomination "Choreographic Creativity" a soloist or group presents one competitive number in one nomination up to 4 minutes long.
- When filling out the application, you can enter your nomination.
Choreographer's work
In the nomination "Choreer's work" the choreographer presents one choreographic composition in one nomination up to 4 minutes in duration. It is necessary to send the video material of the composition to our email in advance with a specific video link to youtube for a full analysis by a dedicated member of the JURY.
THEATER CREATIVITY
- solo, duet, small forms, ensembles: musical, drama, puppet theater, plastic theater.
- Participants in the nomination "Theatrical Excellence" present one competitive number (small stage form, solo performance, sketch, scene from a play or play), which has a compositionally complete character.
- The duration of the performance is up to 15 minutes.
- When filling out the application, you can enter your nomination.
ARTISTIC WORD
- Poems, prose.
- Participants in the nomination "Artistic word" SOLO - present one competitive number, the performance time is up to 4 minutes.
- When filling out the application, you can enter your nomination.
INSTRUMENTAL CREATIVITY
- solo, duet, trio, quartets, ensembles, orchestras:
- bowed string instruments, stringed folk instruments, piano, button accordion, accordion, accordion, wind instruments, percussion instruments, electric instruments.
- Soloist, team presents one competitive number, up to 5 minutes long.
- When filling out the application, you can enter your nomination.
THEATER MOD
- Participants present a competitive program (one or two collections) up to 7 minutes in the form of a show consisting of one or more themes, performed by professionals or by the participants themselves at a high artistic level. The program should consist of a theatrical display of a collection of costume models made on the basis of a single artistic concept and style solution.
- When filling out the application, you can enter your nomination.
ORIGINAL GENRE, CIRCUS ART
- Participants perform one competitive number up to 5 minutes in the following areas: plastic sketch, acrobatics, tightrope walking, antipode, rubber, juggling, clowning, rhythmic and sports gymnastics, pantomime, magic tricks.
- When filling out the application, you can enter your nomination.
FINE, PHOTOGRAPHIC, DECORATIVE AND APPLIED ARTS
- The work technique is free. You can submit up to 5 entries!
- When filling out the application, you can enter your nomination.
ACCOMMODATION SKILLS
- One contest number up to 5 minutes long is presented.
- The program of the competitive performance and the choice of the piece are free. Playing from notes, or by heart - at the request of the accompanist, which will not affect the result.
- When filling out the application, you can enter your nomination.
- Soloist, team presents one competitive number.
- Duration up to 5 minutes.
- The choice of style and genre is free. Playing by notes, or by heart - at will, does not affect the result.
- When filling out the application, you can enter your nomination.
We provide special conditions for people with disabilities! In all nominations, participation in the competition comes with a 50% discount from the main entry fee.
Competition Jury:
Members of the JURY are approved by the Organizing Committee of the competition.
In order to create conditions for making objective and impartial decisions of the jury, its composition is announced only on the day of the Competition.
The performances of the contestants are evaluated by outstanding figures of culture and art, professional musicians, folk and honored artists of variety, theater and cinema, teachers of leading specialized universities.
The jury has the right:
- To award several participants with one title (in the case of qualitatively equal performances and a large number of participants in the corresponding nomination).
- No awards to be given.
- At the end of the competition, the specialized members of the JURY hold round tables, mini Master Classes with an analysis of the performance of the contestants, give recommendations.
The JURY meeting is closed. The decision of the JURY is final and not subject to discussion.
ATTENTION! In the event that participants, teachers or accompanying persons behave incorrectly towards the members of the Jury or the organizers of the Competition, they are automatically removed from participation in the Competition without returning the registration fee.
General technical requirements and conditions for participation in the competition:
- Performances to the phonogram "minus" must be accompanied by a high-quality phonogram, a musical composition recorded on a flash drive.
- All phonograms are handed over to the sound engineer on the day of the competition after the registration of participants before the start of the performance of the contestant and are issued at the end of the program of the competition department;
- Accompanying teachers, team leaders, parents (guardians) are fully responsible for the life and health of the participants;
- According to fire safety rules, it is forbidden to use flammable items, including pyrotechnics, candles, torches, sparklers, decorations and other items that do not comply with fire safety.
- The organizers of the competition are not responsible to the authors of works and songs performed by the participants of the competition.
- The Organizing Committee is not responsible for incorrectly reported or changed information provided by the participant.
When submitting an application, you must indicate the FULL NAME of the TEACHER, ACCOUNTER, etc. etc., all the data that you want to reflect in the Diploma. For any corrections - reprinting the Diploma, rewriting the letter, etc., etc., and any kind of inaccuracies in the Diplomas, due to incorrectly specified data in the application by the applicant's mistake, an additional fee for the Diploma form will be charged.
Changes in the Program on the day of the competition are not allowed!
Be extremely careful when filling out the application!
- The issue of accommodation for the duration of the competition, parking spaces, as well as the delivery of costumes, props and scenery is decided by the participants on their own.
- The organizers of the competition have the right to change the place or date of the competition due to force majeure.
- The organizers of the competition are not responsible for tickets purchased in advance for travel from any point.
- The organizing committee of the competition is not responsible for the personal belongings of the participants!
Do not leave personal belongings unattended!
The costs of organizing and holding the competition are at the expense of the organizers and contributions of the participants in the competition. It is also allowed to use raised funds and charitable contributions.
ATTENTION!
WHEN THE TIME METERING OF THE PERFORMANCE IS GROSS VIOLATED, THE SCORE IS DECREASED AND THE NUMBER IS STOPPED!
All applications are accepted by the Organizing Committee in the form of an online application.
The organizing committee has the right to stop accepting applications at any time if the limit of participants in the competition has been exhausted.
Don't delay submitting your application. Limited number of seats!
Receipt for payment of the registration fee for participation in the competition "My Step to Success!" will be sent to your e-mail, which you indicated in the application immediately after the acceptance of the application by the Organizing Committee.
It is necessary to pay the registration fee according to the receipt in advance.
By doing so, you confirm your participation in the competition.
A copy of the paid receipt must be sent to the Organizing Committee by e-mail.
In case of non-appearance of the participant for the competition, the registration fee is returned in the following cases:
- The participant warned about his non-appearance 7 days before the start of the competition.
- Force majeure circumstances related to the organization of the competition.
- Force majeure circumstances relating to the participant (s) in the presence of a document and notification of the organizers at least 3 days before the start of the competition.
In other cases, the registration fee is non-refundable.
The competition program and information about the competition - the start time of registration, the start time of the competition and branches, the time of award ceremonies for branches and the end of the competition will be sent to your e-mail address, which is indicated in the application, 3-4 days before the start of the competition.
I started! I've started a new chapter!
Perhaps not even a chapter - book. Yes, a new part my beautiful story. Think it was easy? Oh no! Is it difficult? Oh yeah! Crazy!
Now I turn around and see that Life has given me a great, interesting adventure that has made me stronger and spiritually higher. I have not flown such turns until this moment, to be honest.
Yes, now feel support in itself, growth, aspiration upward. But it's now! Girls, you would know that was just a couple of days (weeks) ago. When I remember, I shudder. Brrr, creepy!
But to open a new book - not such a feat. It is commendable, of course, to be sure, but it is much more important to close the old one. Finish the chapter beautifully and put an end to it. Not, exclamation mark! In my life, only they and dots. I don't want points - I want emotions. By the way, here I ran into, but I decided to leave such a position in my life.
Oh, ladies, first things first! What a path had to go for these six months! Believe it or not, but until recently I was not at all laughing. That's quite...
What is the feature
I understood one mega-important life thing: starting a new story is not a matter of one hour or a day. Well, it doesn't happen that you wake up in the morning and already a different person - completely renewed. With emotions and feelings different, new thoughts, new life. No, it doesn't! Everything passes and happens gradually.
It’s also impossible to pull, but also to burn bridges, just start a blank sheet, leaving an old notebook unfinished, alas, it doesn’t work out. It's such a crazy job, such a hard road, full of dangers, traps, false feelings and, as it may even seem, the complete destruction of life... You just feel like a trillion little pieces falling apart...
But in reality, everything is completely different: you just break the monument in which you are frozen and go out on Light. And the first seconds, of course, it is very difficult to look at the Sun, to feel the warmth. Everything hurts, everything interferes. But this stage must be passed. Nothing without him.
I described everything beautifully in a journalistic way, with metaphors, and now I explain in Russian what really happened to me. Fell into darkness. Just hit. I was thrown from one extreme to another both in emotions and in actions - either I ended everything (relationships, work, studies) and left forever, then I decided somewhere and with someone to stay forever.
I howled, climbed the wall from destructive feelings, slammed the door, sobbed at night, grew a black hole in myself. More and more often she spent time alone - she simply could not smile anymore, joke, give joy. Couldn't pretend. Either she decided to stay alone, or she sought support and help from the wrong people at all. Yes, I didn’t have to go to people at all, but I realized this later.
I have always remembered such a moment: I am talking with my friend for life, and the soul inside is screaming, burning, torn. I smile, I try to joke, but at some point I just start crying. I can not stop. It's never been so bad!
I burned on the inside and died on the outside. That's all.
Journalism (and you remember what it means to me) suddenly ceased to be important and bring me happiness. I realized it was empty. Extreme only temporarily drowned out inner pain (it does not apply to Moto Brotherhood, there are only discoveries here!), attempts to escape turned into failure, and the wrong Love for the wrong person completely drove me crazy (although the story there is very special).
I burned bridges, lost my footing, made decisions a thousand times a day, and changed everything again. I made mistakes, fell, got lost, went to the inner cliff, went further and further away from Life. In short, mowed and grew. She grew and mowed.
But I have always been sincere with myself. And it was worth it!
In general, I tell you what I learned. Oh, girls, I'm only sharing with you) My level-up was successfully completed. The book is open ;)
2. Start to change something. It's time!
Ideally, this item should be the last one. Like, I figured out myself and how let's burn bridges and build new ones. But life is not a movie, everything is much more interesting here!
And I have a whole story in general - I did such things that ... Okay, in any case, I did everything right! Now I see that everything was correct.
But honestly, the first time almost never works!
I left a job that was once a Dream for a long time. I rushed about for a long time and imagined what and how I would tell the boss, how I would decide to take such a step. Nobody understood me “What are you! This is Ostankino! This is Channel One! You've already been offered a staff. Left just a little bit! Stop!
For a day or two, I calmed down and convinced myself: “Don't be stupid. Guess it's not what you want to do. Think there is no joy. It was your dream! And now there will be money, a piece of bread, career growth "...
And as soon as I reached these three points, I was immediately shivering and cold - yes, it’s good to get settled, everything is like everyone else, live happily ever after and work from bell to bell, trying to promote your projects. Everything is beautiful, but for me, this is the murder of the Dream, and therefore my own death.
No, it's all! Nasozidalas already in Ostankino. "Enough!",- I said to myself and ... I spent two more months there. She wrote articles, worked on materials, studied and suffered, suffered and studied. A small skirmish with the authorities (to whom, by the way, I am extremely grateful. This time has not passed in vain!) eloquently showed that it was time to put an end to it. I unconsciously scribbled on the list of topics for articles: “I don’t want to be here. I cant. This is not my place."
Two more weeks of torment and I left. It's been almost a month now and I don't regret anything. Girls, I'm free as a bird! I have a new story ;) Wow, that was one of the best decisions of my life.
The same thing happened with other activities - teaching. And from the editorial. They already offered me good money, and the same career prospects, but I realized that I would not take this into the new volume. No. Freedom!
This is about work. But there was also a history of relationships, where she also put dots and dots many times. And the story of friendship... And the story of the people in my life who became an absolute priority. But then I did not burn the bridges ... Why?
3. You can't start a new story from scratch.
You are. There is your past. How can you move forward without the experience that is already behind you? That's right, no way! He created you today, he inspired a change in life, he gave me a chance.
Yes, no matter how much we want to, do not burn the bridges to the end. Not!
I slammed the door, I left, I thought that I would give up people and it would become easier. (But, by the way, placing all hopes on them was also a mistake). It won't! Especially if people are close, and relations with them at the moment are not going well.
And you can’t just blame others for everything in the world. First of all, you need to look in the mirror. I insisted: " It's parents, it's friends, it's him, it's you" but not a word about myself. But, basically, I brewed porridge with such a strange drug additive myself. Here I tried it myself.
Girls, there is no need to give up the past (if it is not about something criminal, of course, although even here it is debatable;). After all, one cannot suddenly tear out the painful feeling of Love from the heart, one cannot forget what one learned in the old place. You can't just pick up and drop everything. Well, you can't!!!
And, most importantly, why? What for? Because there is another way...
4. Accept your story and have no regrets.
It was perhaps one of the most difficult steps.
But what is there to regret? I tried to be happy. I was looking for the way to my Happiness.
I worked in the wrong place. I fell in love with the wrong people. She didn't do those things. Stepped on a rake. Same. Again, and again, and again, and again... But I just wanted to be happy! I thought, what if you approach like this, eh? Searched, tried, did not sit still, but went forward. True, it later turned out that in a circle, or rather, in a spiral, but movement is better than static. By the way, there were a lot of happy moments. Now I understand it exactly.
Being in love taught me how to truly love. The work is to never give up and move on, and even the lyrics are amazing to create. "Friendship" - to be wiser and rely more on yourself than on others. In general, with each jamb, I drew conclusions and grew wiser. Is it bad?
Oh, and I mowed purely in black, but this is such a colossal experience, such a pumping of my consciousness and my life! Nothing without it. Yes, and why not? That's more interesting! Truth?;)
5. Correctly build relationships with people.
One of my joints and my big discovery!
I just went from one extreme to another: either I completely abandoned people (but it didn’t work out at all, because in life I tend to give a lot to relatives and not so little people), then I made them center own life.
In the first case, I just killed myself. I refused to communicate with friends, with a person who changed a lot in my life, but also hurt me. I effectively slammed the door, retired from all social networks, blocked the phone, and just talked to strangers - I listened to the stories of absolutely strangers, but people so close to me, got along with vagrants (there’s nothing wrong with them! People are just world-class!) and left peace.
I thought it would be easier to start a new chapter. But no! I closed myself off from everyone, I was left alone with myself, and then a new game began - kill yourself with your own thoughts. In general, take my word for it, girls, you don’t need to do this!
It’s good, of course, to remove from yourself the people who kill you, morally pressure you, somehow pull you down, if you can’t help them, but why do you want to remove everyone?? If not for my friends, and not for their support, albeit at a distance (I couldn’t let people close to me), I don’t know if I would have surfaced so quickly or not. Do not know...
The second jamb was as close as possible to people. Oh, this is my problem! Sometimes I get too carried away with “helping” others and waste myself in emptiness. I start to support everyone in the world, work for the dreams of others, worry about them as for myself, and when it comes time for me to get support, no one gives me anything. Because it shouldn't. And by the way, they didn't ask me for help either. I myself ... struggled. And then she ran into it.
I realized that you can not put people in priorities! No matter how much you love them, no matter how much you worry, you cannot live on the sidelines of their lives. You have to be at the center! People should be nearby - not behind your back, not in front, not above or below you, but next to you. Hold the hand. So that.
And the whole secret of relationships is simple: if you yourself are not happy, then not one person in the world will make you happy. And if you are happy, but there is no one to share happiness with, then why is it needed?
As soon as I realized this, absolutely new people appeared in my life, fresh breath. My Dream Team.
And with love ... I promised - I'll tell you. There was (and is, thank God!) a person whom I put in the first place. I just fell in love, and the void had to be filled. I did it and started to die. Just lose yourself in the life of another and trying to attract him to you. This is on the one hand.
But on the other hand, thanks to this "raft" I got ashore. It would have sunk long ago! And learned how to truly love. And I was the only one to blame. The man didn't promise anything. It seemed.
It's just... If the feeling is killing you, then it's not the right feeling. And you need to kill not yourself, but him in yourself. If a person is not drawn to you the way you are to him, then you need to move on, if there is no reality, but only illusions and “tomorrow” ... If there is no answer, but there are questions, questions, questions, and hope that breaks from the heart , and then it breaks into reality, where the most important thing is the goal and everything in the world, then ... In general, thank you for everything- I messed up, learned, did, helped everything that was in my power, drew conclusions and moved on.
But in this situation, by the way, my emotional crisis manifested itself. I laid so many hopes, changed my mind so many times, tried to give my life, feelings and emotions so much that I myself had nothing left. But people are not a lifeline. Nope! They are like armlets.
The lifeline is you. For myself. Myself.
By the way, another important feature of the relationship. I realized that if everything is collapsing at home, and it’s bad, then you can’t just leave and start building your life further. Until you create even a thin, but peace, in your family (even if you can call your family a family very remotely), nothing in life will change.
I moved to the other end of Moscow. I stopped communicating with my relatives. I decided to live on my own, independent of anyone. It got much worse! And she came back and began to quietly restore the family system - it became much easier that way. It's more fun to close an old book!
6. Correctly prioritize.
With the place of native people (as well as my readers and viewers, because these people are very close to me!) I decided - next to me. What are the priorities? Target. Not! I got burned already on this - I gave everything to Journalism, Television, acting. She gave everything and ended up with nothing. Dream? And then what? When will she wake up? Disappointment? Love? If again it is expressed in a specific person, then no! Maybe for someone in one and there is the whole universe, but in the end everything ends badly. "I gave you everything, and you..."
What then? Recently I read the golden words: “In every person there is a hole the size of God, and everyone fills it with what he sees fit.”
In every person there is a hole the size of Heaven. And most importantly, that it was inside. Yes, Heaven! Then the weather outside the window, circumstances and events in life, hardships and sorrows will not be important.
Here is my center. My life. Metaphorically, of course, but I'm sure you understand me;)
7. Ignite a Spark in yourself.
I lit it! I have an amazing journalistic project that I have been dreaming about for a long time and which I am now ready for. I have goals and big plans for the future. I have a hope. I have a crazy desire to live!
And, of course, it's not just about the project...
On my arm is a bracelet with the word "Believe". Now the beads on it shine and shimmer like never before. I think it's a sign. This is my spark.
I did not wake up one day a new person. I have struggled with my evil demons for a long time and continue to fight. I struggled with the “wrong” Love for a long time and continue to do so. But now there are no more emotions - only thoughts that are cleverly displaced by the project and grandiose plans for the future. I thought for a long time about the people who left my life and whom I “left”. I thought for a long time about those who are there. I thought for a long time ... And I came to the conclusion that you need to think less and live more!)
Now I create the sky. Now I live. And I just say from the bottom of my heart: "Thank God! Thank God for everything!"
Girls, my life has a brand new book filled with good and unreal good. I can't wait to plunge into this amazing adventure, full of wonderful feelings and moments. I'm sure Heaven has something beautiful for me!
Are you with me? Let's go together!
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